You WILL heal, take the hard-earned, painful lessons you have been forced to learn and never, ever again be charmed into falling in love with someone who is too selfish or unstable (or both) to give you the love and devotion that you deserve.

This advice comes with instructions and these instructions are extremely important:

Take the time to grieve. DO NOT fall into a “rebound” relationship no matter how lonely you are or how great someone seems to be.

Make a huge effort to get to know yourself.

Do not make the mistake of trying to figure out what was “wrong” with you.

Rededicate yourself and your energy to making the very best of yourself and your life. That is what you should begin while you are taking the time to grieve without forming a new romantic relationship and learning who you are and what you want and need in a relationship.

To do this:

The basics; eat a healthy diet, get decent sleep and exercise. This doesn’t have to be any kind of extreme diet or drastic change but emotional heath and strength has to be nurtured by a healthy physical self.

HAVE AN ADVENTURE that pushes you beyond your comfort zone. Reconnect with nature. This will enrich your life beyond your wildest expectations and teach you who you are at your very core while reminding you that, even though you have been terribly hurt. Those things are irrelevant to who you are becoming NOW.

Do NOT get into any kind of romantic relationship for a whole year. Even “casual” dates are fraught with all kinds of practical and emotional risks.


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